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Posted on May 2, 2008 6:30 PM

The Facebook close

If any of you know about the facebook close and have used it, you've probably had good success with it. It's very harmless and is perfect when flash game (aka taking pictures) is involved. Let me just say that I used this on a hired gun at a bar we were at because the girl was giving me IOI's all night and I really wasn't even trying that hard to run any kind of game on her. My friends and I were just having a great time and I think she could tell which possibly made her attracted. I had a happy hour on this night which meant I was drinking for free from 9pm-11pm. I really didn't even get that drunk because I had a big meal earlier and I can typically hold my alcohol pretty well. I think a bit of pre-selection may have been involved to as I was hanging out with a few other girls that I knew from this bar. They are regulars as well so my roommate and I befriended them. At one point my friend was ordering us some shots but didn't know what to order so I asked the girl what she'd recommend. She wanted to make a Scooby Snack, which are really good. We had one from another girl the night before. Anyway, I said yeah make those and she did a shot of it with us which I think was a bit of an IOI in itself. At the end of the night when my friend was closing his tab it gave me a chance to isolate for a few minutes and during this time is when I asked if she had facebook. She did, of course, so I pulled out my phone and entered a new contact and asked her to type in her name on my qwerty keyboard. (I have a sidekick, kinda, its the virigin mobile version haha) After she typed it I saved it and said I'd look for her as we were leaving. Now, bouncing to last night when I saw her there again. Oh, and by the way, I couldn't find her on facebook and you're going to find out why as you keep reading. So my friend and one of the girls that I mentioned we befriended headed to the bar again and did our usual thing and I spotted the girl upstairs while the girl we were with was ordering some drinks. I waited for her to spot me and of course she did and waved. I didn't strike up a convo with her right then and there, I felt it'd be better to appear to busy with my friends to talk then, plus it was a little crowded and probably would have been difficult to get to her and keep a conversation with her while other people are wanting drinks. A little later in the night I ordered a drink for myself and my friend from her. When I was paying for it she asked if I had been dancing again tonight. I took that as an IOI as well. The other night when I was talking to her she wanted to see my skills. I probably should have negged her a little bit at that point and still ended up doing it but I was just like alright and did it. After that I pulled my phone out again while I said I couldn't find her on facebook. I showed her what she typed in to my phone and she corrected it saying she forgot to put the 'S' on the end of her last name. So after that correction I said I'd look for her again. I then disappeared into the bar with my friends again. We were about to bounce to another bar I went back upstairs by myself while my friend was closing his tab and I ordered one last drink from her and when she brought it to me she gave me two. I was like whats that for? She just kind of smiled at me so I took them both. I should have probably asked her to take it with the one I actually bought but she probably would have just told me to take it. So after that I left with my friends feeling good about the whole situation. I now had her name correct and could find her, which I did today, and the add request is pending...

Posted on April 27, 2008 10:11 PM

"Field Report"

I've noticed lately my approach anxiety has grown. I'm finding it harder to talk to women of beauty unless they open to me first or one of my friends opens the set. I have actually been dancing a lot more at the clubs and it gets some girls to open me. Some will stroll up and start dancing with me, and some others will just sit back and wait until I walk pass them to say something to me. I really don't like rap or Soulja boy for that matter but I'm like one of the only people that goes to the clubs here in Columbus, OH that knows how to "crank dat" so I tend to get a lot of looks and compliments when I do that as well as general comments on my overall dancing skills. I can't break dance or anything, I just know how to move to the beat. I feel like I have the potential to get passed the social hook point and what not in a set, but with my approach anxiety limiting me to only those who open me I won't be able to get very far. I know what I need to say. I know how I need to act (for the most part..) but I just can't bring myself to approaching. It's even harder in bigger sets. A 2 set isn't that bad.. but a 5+ set of girls and even with some guys in it just intimidates the hell out of me. I would really appreciate any advice and things to try to get over approaching. I know I need to just be like "screw it, there is 20 other girls here I can talk to if this set blows me off, and theres countless other bars I can go to and find girls at." It's just so hard to actually feel that way when I'm your typical nice guy and although I'm comfortable with rejection, I'm not comfortable with being blown out of the water and not even given a fighting chance. I think that's another problem I have. I'm not quite sure how to disarm obstacles. I have a general idea but I'm not so sure that I have it down right and I think that hurts me as well. Until next time.....

- J

Posted on April 2, 2008 12:40 PM

The big picture

I just wanted to elaborate more on some things you may not have gotten out of my profile or my video. I said that girls typically go for my friends more than me because I have been labeled as the "nice guy." I haven't been on an actual date for about 2 years now and my last serious relationship was when I was only a sophomore in high school, which was roughly 5 years ago. I'm 22 years old and as I mentioned in my video as well about the vital area of focus, I am struggling to do well in college because I don't have any girls in my life that I can be with. If you haven't read Mystery's book he explains that you need Wealth, Health, and Love and if any of these areas are not strong then it will directly affect another over time and eventually you'll end up in a downward spiral. As mentioned as well, I do have some experience in the field. My friend from college and I usually go out on Wednesday nights to this local bar but haven't really run much game there. Upon finishing Neil Strauss' book we tried a lot of new things with very good results with the canned material but neither of us could pull off any kind of close. I was, and still am very nervous about asking a girl to come back to my place after meeting at a bar. I still don't know exactly when to move on to other things in conversation with girls. After opening I find that I get to caught up in the good results and their smiles that I do not think ahead to keep them interested in me. I still do have quite a bit of approach anxiety as well. It usually takes a few beers at the bar before I can no longer feel that knot in my stomach keeping me from approaching. My number 1 goal by being on this website is obviously to make it on the show because I feel that I need the help just as much as the next guy. I know I'm not a bad looking guy. I'm not in the best of shape and I know all of that doesn't matter according to Mystery and every other pick up artist out there, but what about birth defects? I think they play a large role in the game. I have yet to come across anyone else with any. I've never seen a dwarf PUA or an amputee PUA. I was born with many birth defects. My hands are not fully developed and neither are my feet. I have 5 fingers on one hand and 3 and 1/2 on my right. My tongue was under developed as well but with re constructive surgery when I was a baby I have somewhat of a full tongue. I went through many years of speech therapy to be able to speak as well as I do. I'm not here to win $50,000. Sure, it'd be nice to have that money but I'm looking at the big picture, which is my future. I refuse to let my genes be weeded out of existence because I wasn't socially comfortable with women my entire life.