I know that the typical person that is being looked at on the show has no luck with women and no social skills. I'm a horse of a different color. I have luck and social skills. However, it's BAD LUCK and my social skills can't cover for all of the dumb things I get myself into.
For instance, I used to forget to check a girl out before I started flirting. Now that I do, I often use my social skills the wrong way and end up in the friends zone...or worse...that zone where you put that guy who is not good enough to be your friend, but not evil enough to shun. The latter is most often the case. Anyone else feel that way?
I pretty much have no opportunities to shine. I can entertain well, I can get numbers alright, I can make a connection. But something happens after that - I fizzle. I give affection I don't mean. I play the nice guy, the supporter, the dude who wants to listen and is good at, the cheerer up guy. I don't want to be any of those guys to a girl I don't appreciate.
So you see a dilemma here? I Haven't found a girl I am completely attracted to. I'm always settling. I hate settling, and thus, I say i have bad luck. I end up with girls I'm not that into.
Most of my social skills are friendly. I hardly ever make a girl feel sexy. I'm burned out as a hunter of women, and I know I can do better, but I have not the time or the money till summer time pops around.
Another thing - I'm completely celibate till marriage. Try that on for size. Now this is what makes it so difficult - I run into so many road blocks learning social dynamics because of my strict moral beliefs such as no making out, don't give the wrong impression, don't do anything that will get her aroused, etc.
It's so hard! What I want to do is prepare myself for my future wife. And how can I do that without experience or the equivalent knowledge thereof?
It's pretty much a hopeless case unless I talk to a lot of girls I don't know in a very intimidating environment and learn how to do what a pickup artist does from start to finish without even trying. That's going to take a sudden series of events and a lot of encouragement. My self motivation comes in spurts, while motivation from my surroundings is much better at getting me headed in the right direction.
I need an experience. This is my opportunity to shine.

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Posted March 30, 2008 1:30 AM
Pellaeon said:
Hey dude, I can really relate to a lot of what you're saying here. I too can get numbers and strike a good vibe, but struggle when it comes to building the sexual tension. You got a vote from me buddy.
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