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I'm the kind of guy that has lots of female friends in the worst Platonic way possible. I've found that there are several classification of female friends, and each has to be evaluated honestly. You can find out the hard way that heart break will accompany you if you don't understand what type of friend you have and where it can go. I rank these in descending order.

The first type of female friend is the necessary female friend. This is a girl you must hang out with either because you work together, are her boyfriend's best friend, or belong in the same club. I've seen most people get romantic success from this type of friend because you are in close proximity with the person, you can convey personality easily, and you see each other so much it's very easy to find reasons to hang out outside the environment you normally see each other.

This is why so many people meet their dates at work or through social networks.

The next type of friend is the casual associated female friend. In my life, these are generally women I've failed at some point to convert into girlfriends and got stuck in the friend zone. Most PUAs call these girls "One-itis" girls, the one who got away and now you wonder why you failed. I found out from the View that women call the guys "Baxters" who are in this situation.

You can ask them to go shopping with you for clothes they think you look good in, or to try out new restaurants, or to go to clubs with. The bad news is that these girls can deginerate quickly into the last category if you don't work on really maintaining a relationship with.

The non-casual female friend is a girl you kinda know or once knew but have fallen out of touch with. Usually, this is a girl who got a new boyfriend, or lost her boyfriend, or had some other change in her status. It's also a girl you went to class with in college but didn't the next semester, or any change where you might have seen this person regularly and now don't.

Usually, once they get a boyfriend they leave you in the dust. Starts off you know her well, then she gets heavy into the boyfriend, then she leaves you in the dust.

In general, it's my experience that it's not really a good idea to have a female friend in the last two categories. Usually, it leads to heartache, depression, and a sense of loss once a girl who was your friend gets a boyfriend and kicks you to the curb. (Or just doesn't answer her phone, invite you to hang out, etc.)

So advice from someone who gets unassociated female friends too easily, a word of advice is to pay attention to how you know a girl and why. What is the nature of your friendship? Are you just a guy she calls for favors? Does she invite you out with her? Assess your situation honestly and don't get over-involved and emotionally attached to someone who will most likely be a temporary in your life.