Posted on May 7, 2008 7:28 PM
I believe that having the ability to attract the people that you want in your life is priceless. I'm not doing this for the money, but to learn that skill.
That said, if someone gave me 50k tomorrow here's what I would do with it. I would invest 10k of it, travel the world, throw some parties, and put the rest towards charitable causes such as teaching people what I learned from my experience doing this.
Posted on May 5, 2008 7:22 PM
Not long after Brad Pitt left Jennifer for Angelina I went on vacation in South Florida. You'll see where I'm going with that if you keep reading.
One night I went to club Mansion on South Beach. It was a lot more swanky than the college bars I was used to at the time.
I was in a great mood that night and walked into the bar with a big smile on my face. I noticed two cute latin girls as soon as I entered and I decided to approach them.
I said, "Hey guys, I need a female opinion on something."
They said "On what?"
I asked, "Did Brad Pitt do the right thing?"
They both cracked up, and said that was a great conversation starter. They talked to me for a while, and they suckered a random guy into buying me a drink.
I had a good conversation, and they weren't looking for anything more that night. But, hey it beat getting completely shot down!
Posted on May 5, 2008 7:07 PM
I've always been interested in how things work. I was always one of those kids that would take something apart, play with it, and break it trying to put it back together. Even though I drove my parents nuts, I learned a lot in the process.
When I was in college I was more interested in how electronics worked than girls. That's probably why I'm blogging here today, but it was fun! Especially during my last year in school I spent more time designing circuits that make lights flash, motors spin, and digital displays count numbers for a formula race car than I did on my game.
I also like to exercise, play sports, and work on cars. I also like to fish for trout. Trout like clean water, and although my home state of NJ is better known for its smokestacks you'd be surprised if you saw some of streams here.
I also have a musicial side. I can play slap bass up there with the best of them, and my tuba skillz have kept many entertained.
I always thought that the game would come naturally one day, but it hasn't yet. But if there's one thing I've gotten out of this audition is that the game will come if I focus on building a life that is interesting.
Posted on April 13, 2008 11:25 PM
When you are in an uncomfortable situation do you ever get a knot in your stomach?
When I first started campaigning for votes, I got that knot when a woman asked me what show I'm auditioning for. I realized that I used to get that knot because I thought my intentions would be misunderstood. After campaigning for about two weeks I still have that knot! But I've learned that those who know me well didn't misunderstand me!
The women I know well surprised me with how supportive they were once I told them was auditioning to be on The Pick Up Artist. Not one thought it was a bad thing that I'm doing this. Most of them told me that I need something like this!
I think its because most of them like me but aren't attracted to me. Plus they're too nice to say this to my face, but they've always
known that I need to make improvements with how I think in order to increase my chances of being successful with women.
When I asked women I'm just acquainted with, it was a different story. I polarized them the way you'd expect a presidential candidate to polarize the general public.
Some of them thought it was sleazy. They thought I was doing this to learn how to pick up girls for the sake of picking up girls and didn't want to hear me out. Some thought I just wanted to get on TV and didn't want to hear me out either. Others thought it was hilarious and told me I'd be great because they find me naturally entertaining. Some were like "Your social skills and fashion sense are too good for the show" and told me that I don't emanante a "dork" vibe, which surprised me. I didn't realize this, but women size up whether or not a guy is a "dork" quickly.
Some simply were appalled by the irony that I had the guts to ask for their vote, but wasn't able to utilize that courage already into success. Others just told I should just "be myself" and they don't want me to change. Hmm...
Now I'm interested in the opinions of women that don't know me. But one thing I've gotten from this is that if those who know me well think I need to get better, that I'll work on that regardless of what happens here.
Now I'm getting ready for what I expect to be fun. I got my HS alumni directory, and I'm going to touch base with people I went to HS with but haven't talked to in years. We'll see how it goes...
Posted on March 30, 2008 9:23 PM
Basically, I chose to use my AIM screenname, supradesi, as my profile name.
Supradesi has been my AIM screenname for 4+ years now. I've owned an 1986.5 Toyota Supra (yes 1986.5!) for about 5 years. So 4+ years ago I chose to use that as part of my SN.
The word desi is Hindi for the word "native." It is used here in America as a positive slang for someone with a background coming from the Indian subcontinent. I'm a first generation Indian-American. So there's the 2nd half.
Often you can't tell by looking at someone which country they come from. Sometimes if an Indian-American man asks a Pakistani immigrant if he is from India, he would get offended and vice versa. Why that is, is a long story! So asking someone if they are "desi" is a polite way to ask someone from that region where they are from.
Posted on March 30, 2008 9:08 PM
In the past two weeks, I stepped out of my comfort zone and went speed dating twice. I told one of my female friends about it, and she told me that a good way to get out of my comfort zone would be to go on this show. So I decided to audition!
Posted on March 30, 2008 8:11 PM
So about speed dating. Three or four years ago I would have never done something like this because I thought it would be a waste of time. Recently, I thought to myself, “What if it isn’t? Is it worth spending a evening meeting new women even if none of them are my type?” Then I decided the possibility of finding a new date was worth giving it a shot.
One session was in Morristown, NJ and the other was in New Brunswick, NJ. It was a lot of fun and I’m glad that I did it.
Here’s how it worked. When you enter the session area you’re given a tag with your first name and a ID # to put on your shirt. You are also given a card with the ID # of every participant with yes and no next to it. At the end of the session you return the card back to the event organizer. You circle yes for whoever you want to exchange email addresses with and no for you’re not interested in.
Each “date” lasts for four minutes, where you sit across from each other and chat. The girls sit in the same spot and the guys move every four minutes from spot to spot chatting with a different girl. You get a 10 minute break halfway through the dating session.
Most of the girls I met were very friendly. It is an amazing experience to be in a room where every member of the opposite sex is there to talk to people. It took away that pit I get in my stomach when I think about approaching a girl.
As soon as I sat down to chat with some of the girls, I could tell they were already thinking "No." But they are were friendly enough to be open for a fun conversation.
The ironic thing about it was that a handful of the girls weren't looking for a date, they just were there to support friends of both sexes that didn't want to go speed dating alone. A lot of girls asked mundane questions such as
What do you do?
Where do you live?
Did you grow up around here?
I had fun putting my own spin on those answer so that our date had the feel of a conversation instead of a job interview. I also got a lot of positive feedback when I talked about my recent trip to Argentina.
So for fun, I circled yes for every girl I dated whether I was attracted to them or not. I did that because I was curious to see who wanted to talk to me again. Two girls circled yes for me! One I emailed and never heard back from, and the other and I agreed to meet for a drink during the week of March 30. I’ll let you know how it goes…
Posted on March 30, 2008 7:58 PM
One definition I’ve heard of insanity is to do the same thing over and over again and to expect a different result. Throughout my life I have had a comfortable middle class Indian-American lifestyle and viewed every day above ground as a gift. The way I see this is that the worst thing that will happen to me from this is that I’ll gain a new life experience to talk about. I haven’t had the results in the dating scene that I want and am ready to make changes to be more successful. Many people are in situations that they are unsatisfied with and want to change, but don’t want to step outside of their comfort zone to make the changes to get out of their undesirable situation.
Who do you know that wants to lose weight but won’t exercise more and eat healthier, is attracted to someone they’re too afraid to hit on, is unhappy with the job or career that he or she invested years into but won’t pursue another one, is in an unhappy marriage but won’t attempt to better it or get divorced? They are probably stuck in that situation because they don’t want to get out of their comfort zone. Now people that are in the cases I mentioned above are aware of their unhappiness, aren’t they? But often they can’t pinpoint how both their unconscious and conscious thoughts got them and keep them there.
So in a nutshell, I’m doing this to improve how I think. I believe this will allow me to make the necessary changes to be more successful when it comes to dating. I believe that if you still reading this that you’ll have a blast watching me make changes during my time on the show, and I want to inspire others to step out of their comfort zone and make the changes that they need to get more out of life!
